While communicating with one another, your body language shows up as non-verbal communication and non-verbal expressions and these gestures have more influence than you would expect. You might not realize it, but how you communicate may actually be more important than what you are saying.
Maybe you have noticed that someone’s behaviour and body language are entirely inconsistent with what they say. Or perhaps you have experienced fidgeting or certain ticks when nervous during a public speech or an extensive interview. The potential implications of body language reveal non-verbal signals that play a role in your day-to-day life. We are consistently communicating with others in a variety of ways.
Body language includes our posture, moments, and gestures, making it a vital part of our communication process. It plays a crucial role in job interviews, careers, and everyday encounters. You can control your body language with your brain, it’s not as easy as you think. When we become stressed or feel other emotions, sometimes we can’t control our body language.
We can also see body language reflect on the perception of how we see our own selves. You may have different body language when you are feeling confident with yourself or if you are making authoritative decisions.
You may find yourself in an awkward position or an uncomfortable environment without using the correct body language. More significantly, difficulties in the workplace may be the result of dysfunctional body language. Here are some key indications of body language and how you can use it to create a more positive atmosphere.
Negative Body Language
You may have experienced a time when someone seems disinterested in a conversation, all by the way they are portraying their body. It may seem like they are disinterested. Even if they are listening, you may not be able to tell by how they are showing it.
Someone who seems disinterested, unhappy, or disengaged, may show it through negative body language behaviours. Those behaviours include:
- Their body turned away from you
- Arms folded in front of their body
- Minimal or tense facial expression
- Eyes downward or showing little contact
Being aware of negative body language signals can help you adjust and learn more about how you can better interrupt or say things. It’s important to show empathy for someone’s unhappiness or disdain. That’s why explaining yourself clearly and calmly through your body language is the best way for the other person to obtain the information.
Positive Body Language
You can show positive body language by conveying positive feelings, including trust, happiness, and interest. Spotting these signals can reassure you that others are engaged and listening when you have a conversation. By adopting these body language behaviours yourself, you can better support your points and convey your ideas more clearly and effectively, not showing mixed signals.
Maintain eye contact. Hold the person’s gaze for a few seconds at a time. This shows that you are listening and engaged.
Have an open posture. There is a way to be relaxed without slouching. Sit or stand upright while placing your hands by your sides. Be relaxed, but don’t slouch. Try not to stand with your hands on your hips, which can communicate aggression or dominance.
Avoid touching your face. If you touch your face while answering questions, it can signify dishonesty. It may not be the case, but you should still avoid touching your face. Examples include scratching your nose or fiddling with your hair. That way, you can convey that you are trustworthy.
Your spine is talking with you.
When we perceive and react to a threatening stimulus, our body adopts a posture to promote safety and shifts our physiology and perceptions accordingly. This is defensive body language. Here are a few things your body language may mean to you:
Your upper neck. This part of your spine changes position when you are worried about something that hasn’t happened yet, administration of life or money, or you are preoccupied about time or your schedule in the future.
Your upper-middle neck. When you are thinking and not feeling, this area can hold itself. Because this area is the physical anchor for the sense of self. In this area, you may use willpower to block the rhythms of life.
Your middle-lower neck. If rage, anger arrive this area can react and change. Maybe because you are concerned about or in a state of confrontation in the future and you are preparing and thinking and playing ahead of time repeatedly.
Your pelvis. Your pelvis position is often connected with your identity, who do I have to be, who do I have to give up to get love. The “shoulds” of life, what is your role as a woman or man, not sure about the job or relationship, fundamental question what the world expects from you, if a conflict exists between who you are and what is expected, then your posture can change to reflect how you are dealing with your life experience.
On the other side of any of these spinal presentations is an amazing energy and when your body language stays fluid, you are free to relax and let go of any unnecessary tension and become the wounded healer or the world mover that you need to be.
Find time to reflect on how you use your body language in situations, and evaluate others body language. Interpreting body language can complement talking and listening attentively, it’s not a replacement for it.